Syariah Court and Non-Muslim Lawyers

Pening sungguh.

Seperti yang saya selalu sebut, saya suka baca semua  pendapat sebelum saya membuat apa-apa keputusan.

Kalau 5 tahun dulu, mungkin saya cenderung kepada BN, tetapi sekarang saya tidak cenderung kepada BN lagi. Namun, tidak pula saya cenderung kepada PR. Saya lebih cenderung untuk memilih samada menyokong/tidak menyokong/neutral berdasarkan isu itu sendiri tanpa memikirkan isu ini diusulkan oleh parti yang mana.

We should take one particular issue by its own merit. That, to me, is the tenet of justice.

And maturity.

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Saya rasa sangat SUSAH untuk membuat ‘judgment’ bila saya berada di dalam kawasan kelabu.

Saya sedar, bila kita masih kecil, semua benda adalah hitam dan putih. Saya tak nampak warna yang lain. Kalau saya betul, saya akan cakap saya betul beriya-iya hingga orang naik muak. Kalau saya salah, tak nak mengaku pulak! Itu adalah satu perangai yang sangat hodoh sekali, dan kepada sesiapa yang pernah terkena, saya meminta maaf dari hujung rambut hingga ke hujung kuku ibu jari kaki.

Masih ada lagi sisa-sisa (residual dust) perangai seperti itu dalam diri saya ini. Alhamdulillah, keluarga dan kawan-kawan memang bersabar. That’s why I love you guys a lot!

Begitu juga, dalam hal agama. Bagi saya pada waktu itu, semuanya hitam dan putih. Saya tak tahu nak menilai berdasarkan ‘case by case.’ Saya berasa sangat-sangat ‘unsettled’ apabila mendengar tentang kewujudan mazhab (kenapa perlu?) atau kepelbagaian pendapat (mengapa begitu?). Kalau semua seragam kan senang; so semua orang tahu apa yang betul dan apa yang salah.

Sebab saya suka benda yang ‘clear dan transparent’. Sebab saya benci nak mengubah-ngubah prinsip. Saya tak suka reasoning yang kejap begini, kejap begitu, apabila situasi adalah sama. Saya pernah cakap kan, saya ni autistic, tak suka nak ubah2 dan adapt to changes. Tambah-tambah lagi bila perubahan itu akan memberi impak kepada prinsip.

Tapi bila saya semakin besar, saya mula tersedar bahawa perubahan itu adalah sunnahtullah hidup di dunia. You have no choice, you have to adapt. Dan kepelbagaian pendapat akan ada dalam semua bidang. Even in medicine, no matter how clear the hospital guidelines are in the treatment of certain condition, you will always find another consultant scoffing at the said guideline with contempt.

“No, I think this drug is better than what the guideline says! Oh, this guideline is developed by old medical practitioners who only sit at their desk, drinking fine wine and good hotel food, and don’t see patients anymore.”

Cynical! But with a dose of truth.

But that doesn’t mean the guideline is TOTALLY wrong either. This guideline is developed via the principle of evidence-based-medicine (EBM).

But then, trust me, every patient is unique and you should treat them case by case. Guidelines is the mainstream….but it’s still just a guideline.

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Let’s look at the case of Penggunaan Nama Allah, which I did a post on HERE.

Saya sungguh pening kerana memikirkan ada dua pendapat yang berbeza; from one extreme to another. Sebagai orang yang memang tidak ada keupayaan untuk membuat pertimbangan sendiri kerana tidak cukup ilmu, saya baca pelbagai pendapat. Saya mengikuti blog-blog orang-orang yang saya tahu selalu memberi pendapat yang bernas dan berkecuali seperti Zulkifli Noordin, Mahaguru58 dan Dr. Asri. But as you can see, orang2 yang betul2 berkecuali dan ikhlas pun masih berbeza pendapat.

Nik Aziz dan Harun Din pun berbeza pendapat walaupun mereka dari parti yang sama.

So, orang macam aku yang memang tengah mencari apa yang patut disokong, menjadi keliru. Sebab? Mereka semua hebat2…ilmunya, research-nya, keberkecualiannya, keikhlasannya (setakat yang manusia boleh nampak). Tapi mereka masih mempunyai pendapat yang berbeza. So, at the end, I still need to come up with my own stand, GUIDED by these differences.

But I struggled because I  (and I am sure everyone else too) want to support the most righteous, the best and the most just of all issues.

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Di dalam kes peguam Victoria Jayaseele a/p Martin Jayaraj memohon diterima menjadi peguam syarie, sekali lagi saya dihinggap rasa pening.

Saya pertama kali mendapat tahu tentang isu ini daripada blog YB Kulim, Zulkili Nordin di dalam ENTRY INI.

Waktu itu, saya kurang ambil kisah sangat. Cuma saya terfikir:

1)Adakah betul Non-Muslims tidak boleh menjadi peguam mengendalikan kes syariah? Kalau ya, mengapa? Adakah ini peraturan manusia reka? Atau memang Allah dan rasulnya mengharamkan, kerana jika itu sebabnya, saya tidak akan bertanya lagi.

2)Tapi bagaimana dengan negara Islam yang mengamalkan undang-undang Islam, jika tidak sekarang mungkin pada masa depan? Takkan kita nak tunggu semua lawyer masuk Islam, baru diorang boleh jadi lawyer? Tidak ada ruangkah untuk lawyer bukan Islam melakukan tugasnya mengikut sistem Islam?

Apa berbeza sangatkah keadilan secara Islam dan keadilan mahkamah civil? Agama apa pun lawyer tersebut, apabila lawyer itu menjadi peguam di dalam sistem itu, dia akan berhujah berdasarkan sistem itu.

Lantas, apa masalahnya?

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Selepas membaca entry YB ini (salah seorang blogger yang saya sangat minat), saya berasa agak ‘I wonder’ di situ. Cuma, sebagai medical student yang sangatlah pemalas nak fikir panjang dan saya pun nak exam lagi 2-3 hari lagi, saya rasa saya patut KIV dulu fikir pasal ini.

Namun, setelah membaca entry Dr. Asri DI SINI, yang kebetulan menjawab persoalan-persoalan saya, maka saya terus menulis post ini.

Untuk isu ini, saya cenderung bersetuju dengan Dr. Asri.

Dan saya mengaku, selama ini saya cenderung mengikut pendapat beliau. Saya sendiri sudah jadi confused:

1)Adakah saya memang suka pendapat beliau kerana pendapat beliau memang betul?

(But until the day of judgment, who can tell just yet what’s right and what’s wrong?)

1)Adakah saya suka pendapat beliau sebab pendapat beliau menyokong rasa hati saya? Maka, saya pun suka.

-Saya cuba juga untuk for once ‘tidak agree’ dengan Dr. Asri supaya saya boleh buktikan yang saya menyokong sesuatu pendapat, bukan kerana beliau yang memberikannya. Saya benar-benar cuba di dalam isu ‘penggunaan nama Allah’ (to me, that is the most challenging mental exercise ever; I was very, very neutral to begin with) untuk membuktikan saya menyokong sesuatu bukan sebab orangnya, bukan sebab partinya, hanya berdasarkan isu semata-mata.

Dan saya harap, insya Allah, saya memang telah membuat pendirian yang betul. Tetapi sekali lagi, I found myself liking HIS views than others.

-Saya cuba, tetapi tidak boleh. Setakat ini, benda-benda yang saya selalu ‘I wonder’, Dr. Asri memberi jawapan yang saya puas hati. Namun saya takut kepuasan hati saya ini hanya kerana pendapatnya selalu selari dengan apa yang saya rasa, jadi saya mudah untuk menerimanya. Bukan kerana jawapan itu betul berbanding jawapan pihak seberang sana.

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This is my personal opinion:

-Islam sangat logik.Benda yang kita terfikir tidak logik, selalunya bukanlah benda itu Islam in the first place.

-Bila kita terfikir something secara logik (tanpa bercanggah dengan apa-apa larangan/suruhan di dalam Islam) selalu akan ada jawapan yang memuaskan hati. When you get the answers, everything just click, and fall into place.

-With Dr. Asri (well, so far laaa) dia memberikan jawapan yang ada dalil-dalil agama dan PADA MASA YANG SAMA, dapat menunjukkan betapa logiknya dalil-dalil itu dalam kehidupan harian.

-Ustaz Hasrizal is another religious personality who has been really successful in making me understand things religiously AND logically.

-Sungguh, aku banyak sangat jumpa orang-orang yang boleh bagi dalil-dalil dengan hebat. Tapi orang-orang ini tidak mampu nak buat connection bagi orang lain nampak how it is logical. Mereka ini menghafal semata-mata, dan memuntahkannya apabila bercakap dalam setting agama (agak-agak ada kaitan sikit, mari kita letak dalil ini di celah-celah ucapan kita, lol) tetapi menyebabkan audience tertanya-tanya….kenapa dia letak dalil ini tiba-tiba?

You know what I mean?

You have to explain!! Elaborate! Macam buat karangan! Ada point statement, ada elaboration.

Kalau orang yang bercakap di depan tidak pandai nak buat connection itu, (bagaimana dalil itu patut difahami dan dalam konteks yang bagaimana) audience akan lost. Tak terasa apa-apa. Langsung tidak berbekas di hati.

So, mungkin di dalam satu-satu isu itu, kedua-duanya ada hujah masing-masing. Entah-entah mungkin pihak yang sebelah sana yang lebih betul, namun saya selalu memilih hujah yang mampu buat saya faham secara logik.That’s why I love Dr. Asri’s style and that’s why I love scientific reasoning too….how everything clicks and interconnected.

That’s why I love Harun Yahya.

They knew how to connect the dots!

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For this issue, I let everyone have a thought about it for yourself. Tak perlu aku nak bebel panjang (oops I already did) sebab  aku sendiri membuat keputusan hanya selepas membaca kedua-dua link yang aku letak di atas tadi.

The lesson from this post is: There are grey areas everywhere. Nak atau tak nak, kena juga buat keputusan. But I will show you another person in YOU TUBE whose reasoning and whose ability to connect the dots is just awesome!

I leave you with this video regarding ‘differences of opinion in Islam’. This is an eye-opening issue, indeed: Islam and Ego.

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Gambling and Intoxicants- The scientific view

Salam readers.

As you can see from the title of my post above, it’s going to be about gambling. And yes, this is a response towards the retarded decision of BN (or Be End, to borrow the oppositions’s expression, lol) to legalize World Cup Gambling.

Long before people talked about it on Facebook on how SINFUL for the government to legalize what is clearly haram in the eyes of Allah, long before people actually knew about the decision and talked about it in earnest, I had already heard of the news, thanks to my favourite blogger @ mahaguru58 who was very up-to-date in his research. He got wind of the decision long before others were talking about it. I could only speculate how he was able to accomplish such feat….was he being the-fly-on-the-wall during a cabinet meeting or did he have a private spy looking into the matter? I have no idea. My thought would be, the matter must have already made the headlines in the Chinese and Indian newspapers while the BH and the Utusan kept the matter silent.

We already knew the position of the Quran regarding this matter:
They ask thee concerning wine and gambling. Say in them, there is great sin and some benefit for men. (But)The sin is greater than the benefit. (Al-Baqarah: 2;219)

To say that this is only made legal to the non-muslims would be an insult to their intelligence. EVERY religion frowns upon gambling. Even the atheists would agree, if they are smart. There is no justification for anyone to gamble….

No JUSTIFICATION!

….unless you want to shun intelligent arguments and choose to use the ‘freedom’ ticket as your justification.

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As many people like to claim that they are intellectuals who shun religious reasoning and only accept scientific proof, I will try to present the perils of gambling in its scientific medical explanation. Nope, not to appease the so-called intellectuals… but to show that gambling, in its own right, is a foolhardy thing to do.

Gambling is not bad because the religion prohibits it. Instead, the religion prohibits it BECAUSE it is bad.

(I just would like to have the cause-and-effect relationship clear in the mind of my dear respected readers.)

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Have you ever wondered WHY gambling and intoxicants (i.e alcohol and addictive substances) are being put under the same sentence in the Quran?Let’s revisit the ayat again:

They ask thee concerning wine and gambling. Say in them, there is great sin and some benefit for men. (But) The sin is greater than the benefit. (Al-Baqarah: 2;219)

I mean, why not Gambling and Fornication? Or why not Gambling and Murder? Or why not Gambling and Stealing? In short, WHY of all the bad deeds in the world, does Allah pair up gambling with alcohol?

Wallahi, I don’t know. Who am I to presume I could read the reasoning of Allah, the All-Knower.

I could only speculate the reasons and here is what I could come up with:

1)To pair up Gambling with Fornication, or Gambling with Murder or with any other bad deeds, would not fit with the second half of the ayat which says “….-and some benefit. But the sin is greater than the benefit.”

I challenge you to come up with another bad deed which you could pair up with gambling that ALSO has a bit of benefit but many sins (bad side-effects)  in them.

In short, Allah DOES acknowledge that BOTH of them have some benefits, but considering the MUCH greater side effects of them, you might as well make do without the benefit.

So, in this ayat, it has already been anticipated that some people would justify gambling with the small benefit that it brings by saying “Oh, you can use the profit from gambling for sports development and what nots.”

Just like alcohol can be justified by saying, “Oh, a bit of wine can actually prevent ischaemic heart disease,” Which is true enough, I suppose, but Pfft! Ask any cardiologists in the world and they would say diet control and exercise are the main keys in treating ischaemic heart disease! Why do you want to bypass the BEST method of treatment for your heart, only to go for an obscure small benefit of wine? Get real, people!

So, nope! We are not denying the small benefits that they bring. The Al-Quran, being the word of God, already acknowledges the facts and even ANTICIPATE such response from the non-believers…but we are just saying that you can make do without the small benefits of alcohol and gambling, because they bring much greater harm with it. Besides, those small benefits can still be attained with other alternatives.

There’s another reason why I think Gambling and Intoxicants are JUST RIGHT to be paired up together:

2) Learning medicine has caused me to acquaint myself on how the brain works. And of all addictive activities, I challenge you to come up with another activity that would be just as similar in its effect to the brain, as gambling.

What I am trying to say is, alcohol and gambling works the EXACT same way, stimulate the exact same pathway in the brain that leads you to compulsively do something that you KNOW is harmful, but you could NOT stop.

And that pathway in the brain, that particular synaptic connections in the brain is called: The Dopamine Mesolimbic Pathway.

I know I sound really scientific here. Don’t worry! I will try to explain it in a layman term, because if you are not a medical student, there is no use for you to know in GREAT DETAILS all the scientific terms. I only include the name of the pathway so that you can double-check my facts if you are in any doubt of my truthfulness. But I will provide the link to a journal article of this Dopamine Mesolimbic Pathway HERE.

Notice that in the journal article, one particular sentence states that, and I quote:

“It (the study) shows that a known treatment for drug and alcohol addiction is effective when applied to pathological gambling.”

And do you know WHY the same treatment for drug and alcohol addiction (i.e intoxicants addiction) are THE SAME as for pathological gambling? Yup, because they have the exact same disease aetiology, affecting the exact same type of neurons, at the exact same brain area, making use of the exact same chemicals.

In other words: They BOTH affect the mesolimbic dopamine pathway (similar disease aetiology), with activation of GABA neurons (the same type of neurons), begins at the ventral tegmental area (the same part of the brain), with dopamine as its neurotransmitter (the same chemicals).

It makes PERFECT SENSE why Allah in that particular sentence pairs them up together. Subhanallah!

For me to go into details how the Mesolimbic Dopamine Pathway works would not be beneficial to others who have never learned Neurology as part of their medical studies. Enough for me to say that you could NOT pass second-year exam without knowing this pathway by heart.

But basically, this pathway is called the ‘reward’ pathway, in which you can become addicted to certain behaviours when you associate your activity with a particular ‘reward’ (for instance, ‘money’ or ‘feelings of euphoria’).

Take morphine (a type of intoxicant) for example. Have you ever wondered WHY when a patient in pain was given morphine, he/she is not addicted to it once he/she is out of hospital and pain-free and can go on with his/her life as normal; but a drug addict who has associated morphine with feelings of euphoria (i.e a reward), become addicted to it?

It’s exactly because when a patient takes morphine for pain, NO REWARD ASSOCIATION was being made by the patient, and a different pathway is triggered. But someone who takes morphine drug for pleasure, DOES associate her activity with a feeling of euphoria, and thus activating the mesolimbic dopamine pathway…overtime, its synaptic connections become more powerful, and thus causing her to become addicted.

So, if you think alcohol is bad, then gambling is JUST AS BAD!

Problems arise when people don’t think alcohol is bad and therefore, just could not compute how bad gambling is.

If you ever doubt how bad alcohol drinking is, just go to any hospital in Australia; go to the Emergency Department and ask the doctors there how many patients have presented with alcohol-related health issues in the ED. Wallahi, we EVEN need a special team to manage these patients. All medical students by now would be familiar with the “Drug and Alcohol” team (affectionately abbreviated as D&A in the Emergency white board) being called upon to review the patients! Some of them, for being sooo intoxicated, need to have a toxicologist review as well.

I am currently doing my emergency term at the moment and I see patients with alcohol dependence EVERYDAY!!

For a non-Muslim, it’s fine if you don’t want to bow to our rules and regulations, just because it’s coming from Islam.

But trust me, the brain of a non-Muslim works exactly the same way as the brain of a Muslim. So what’s bad for a Muslim (regardless of whether or not it is in the religion) MUST be bad for the non-muslim too. If only for this reason, I implore each and everyone of us to have a care when you support the government’s decision to legalize gambling and intoxicants!

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Some even have the cheek to say, “Well, what’s the difference between legalizing gambling NOW….it’s not like we don’t already have one impressively large casino in Genting, right? And why should you make such a big deal out of legalizing gambling when legalizing alcohol has been going on since forever?’

To answer that question, I give you the quote from our beloved prophet (S.A.W):

“Barangsiapa melihat suatu kemungkaran hendaklah ia mengubah dengan
tangannya. Apabila tidak mampu, hendaklah dengan lidahnya (ucapan),
dan apabila tidak mampu juga hendaklah dengan hatinya dan itulah
keimanan yang paling lemah."

The government SHOULD NEVER have legalized gambling no matter how powerless they are in changing what is a chronic state of wrongdoing. Don’t hide behind statements like “We can control illegal gambling much better by giving so-and-so a license.” Pfft! The government, even if paralyzed to change the bad deeds now, should demonstrate their hatred of such deeds by refusing to allow legal gambling… and that is only the weakest of iman.

And the liberals out there, if you can’t appreciate the scientific reasons of why intoxicants and gambling are SINFUL, then you can use the expression of ‘freedom of conduct’ (over and over again!!) ad nauseam…see how beneficial your freedom would be in the long run.

I leave my respected readers with this famous quotes for reflection:

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Shaytan wants only to excite enmity and hatred between you with intoxicants (alcoholic drinks) and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allah and from As-salat. So, will you not then abstain? (Al-Quran, 5:91)

Intention and Real Interest

“The reward of deeds depend upon the intentions, and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended.”

There are things you know intellectually and theoretically, and there are things you know as a result of experience.

With regards to the hadeeth above, I have been privileged to know it in every sense of the words, only recently.

This year, I know what a difference it makes to study because you really want to know them, rather than to study for the sake of passing an exam. The result is very eye-opening and refreshingly heart-warming.

I couldn’t help but notice that when I studied because of exams, I was able to retain the info, at most, 3 months…

But when I study because I really, really, really want to know the facts (because insyaAllah I will be a doctor SOON, God!) I am able to retain the info longer and able to really put those facts into my imaginary ‘long term’ folder in my brain.

Take a look at upper and lower limbs anatomy, for example. I have had to learn anatomy in 1st year, a bit in second year, and a whole lot!! in 3rd but within a very limited span of time!! And I retained VERY LITTLE of what I used to read.

But now, after having left Ortho for almost 2 weeks, I could still recall some of the innervation and muscles of the upper and lower limbs. Maybe to most people with the love of anatomy, that is no great feat. But to me, who used to absolutely LOATHE anatomy, that feels like I have conquered the tall and mighty Mt. Everest!

Another example can be seen in my Palliative Care knowledge, a rotation I have left for more than 1 month now. I could still recall the names of the medications and how to calculate its dosage…something I have learned in the past for the purpose of short-term memorization. But now that the knowledge became vital and important (again, because I am freaking out for next year), coupled with my INTENTION and REAL INTEREST, the process of recalling that knowledge became almost (but not quite) effortless.

So, in everything that we do, we MUST have the right intention. I know, as a 1st,2nd,3rd and even 4th year medical student, you are not even going to have the time to even THINK about having the right intention. All you can think about is, I have this whole lot of notes to get through in 2 weeks time, that to even FAKE an interest would take away 2 seconds of precious time. But TRY!! At least, in some areas of medicine where you have a genuine interest in, do not study just for exam! Try to make sense of what you are studying! It will be so very helpful in your later years!!

In my own defense…

-The accumulation of medical knowledge is swift and fast! The process can leave you gasping for breaths! And you have other role(s) in life that needs taking care of too. Whether you like it or not, sometimes you have no choice but to memorize for short-term exam purpose.I mean, if I didn’t pass my previous years before, I would never be able to get to 5th year to really study for the sake of knowledge, would I? So, I felt that at that time, I didn’t have any choice but to pass first, and study for knowledge LATER.

-In the first place, I wasn’t into medicine. I had no REAL INTEREST in it.

-Besides, I was BUSY with my other activities….mostly finishing and keeping-up with the latest books by my favourite authors and finding out new interesting authors.I didn’t have the good sense of prioritizing.

-The theories I learned in the 1st and 2nd years were ‘dry’ theories, I applied very RARELY.  Now, that I am into my 3rd year of clinical years, that knowledge starts making sense.

And I think that I am ALMOST justified in my reasoning to study for exams in the past. Looking back, I didn’t think I could have done any better. However, I realize now that no matter how justified it all was, the justification doesn’t help me retain the facts into my brain, though it does making it easier to learn a second time around.

So, I would like to call for you and me to correct our intention whenever possible (for there are times when it’s just not, I know, trust me). Intention is the ONE vital thing we should try to get right. It will ease your journey in the later years to come.

PS: While writing this post, suddenly I remember a similar post I had written 2 years ago when I was in 3rd year and was still trying to ‘find’ myself. The article is HERE for the pleasure of your perusal. Written by me, a ‘lampi’ for another ‘lampi’. Moga bermanfaat.

Faultfinders!!

This post is inspired by this article from one of my favourite bloggers in the online world. You can read the article here.

But I am not going to write on the same topic as the respected Mahaguru58; so nope…nothing would be said beyond that I agree with Mahaguru58 and I have had the same view as his since a longgggg time ago. For so long, I hate hearing people badmouthing our police force or our army or anyone in public service doing the kind of jobs that we so-called professionals didn’t even consider doing.

The PDRM started getting the bad rap since the Malaysian political crisis in 1997. Before that, I have never heard of anyone snickering or making-face at the PDRM. In cases of break-ins and thieving…who do we go to? In the case of accidents and kidnapping…who do we rely on? When we feel in danger, who, after Allah, would you hope to be around to hear your cries of help?

At least, I used to consider being a policewoman or a detective, once. Until now, I am considering applying as a doctor in the army. And my youngest sister pernah nak jadi bomba lagi! These are good, noble works that involve you putting your life at risk for the sake of public service.

Sure, doctors and engineers do play their roles too…but very little to be compared to the police or the firefighters or the army, in terms of the risk to life and limbs.

But a lot of people refuse to engage themselves in positive thinking. They keep on finding faults in others.

Of course, we should always give CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM for future improvement, but the criticism given should be voiced in the kindest manner possible. It should be given in the spirit of brotherhood and sisterhood. It should be given with you feeling genuine concern about the situation, for the sake of the persons involved…not for the sake of you showing off your oh, so brilliant thinking.

I hate faultfinders!!And I generally couldn’t stand being around people who have negative thoughts all the time. These people give such negative vibes and can be very depressing.

Since I really like maintaining my positive and happy outlooks, I generally avoid this kind of people like the plague or I would show them my dissatisfaction at their comments. Sometimes I just remain silent and refuse to comment. So in the future, they would know not to say these kind of things out loud around me.

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Unfortunately, I have to admit that most faultfinders are women.

But not ALL women. Just NOSY women! And some BITCHY men. (To all men in the world, being bitchy is the most un-manly thing to ever be doing! DON’T do it!!)

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NOSY women:

Look, I have to admit that I love gossips. But there are two types of gossips: Good ones and bad ones (mengumpat).

Examples of good gossips are things like, “Weh, ko tahu tak kawan kita tu dah bertunang. Dah nak kahwin bulan depan.” It gives such a happy mood to all people hearing it.

Bad ones are like this: “Hari tu…aku nampak laki tu dengan perempuan tu pegang tangan. Ish, aku rasa cam tak malu sungguh depa dok buat macam tu! Entah apa-apa. Berapa kali dah aku nampak depa dok dating! Konon alim sangat.”

G…god! You were there kan? Why DIDN’T you give them your advice at that time, straight to their face? What is the PURPOSE of you telling ME and others what you saw they did? True, you will be able to convey how ‘alim’ you are because you had felt disgusted when you look at ‘MAKSIAT’…however, you have also conveyed how WEAK you were by not doing anything about it other than committing the maksiat of backbiting.

Look, I don’t want to know about other people’s maksiat that I didn’t witness on my own. If I had witnessed it and I was a coward enough not to say anything about it to the persons themselves, I would NOT talk about it to others. I have seen many people dating, tak pernah pulak aku nak heboh2 kat orang lain. Because it wouldn’t be constructive at all, it would be exposing other people’s shame.

Dan ini adalah contoh daripada facebook status kawan lelaki aku yang budget diri dia ini alim. It sounds something like this, “Ish, awat lah tak senonoh sangat orang kat atas ni. Pukul 12 tengah malam perempuan tu masuk, skrang dah pukul 4 tak keluar lagi. Mari kita lihat pukul berapa diorang keluar.”

WHAT?? Are you JOKING?? You are sooo wrong in soo many levels:

1)Kau abaikan tanggungjawab kau mencegah!! Daripada kau tunggu bersengkang mata dari pukul 12 sampai pukul empat, adalah lebih baik kalau kau ketuk pintu rumah dia pada pukul 12.01 minit, buat2 nak berborak atau bagi nasihat.Apa guna kau nak ‘lihat pukul berapa mereka keluar’?

2)Kau telah mengaibkan orang! Macam mana kalau ada kawan2 facebook kau yang kenal orang yang duduk tingkat atas rumah flat kau tu?

3)Ada possibility kau telah mengfitnah. Entah2 perempuan tu kakak atau adik dia ka? Who knows?

4)Kau riya’ lagi berlagak.

Another example of stupid criticism: “Aku tak faham kenapa budak2 yang alim tu tak tegur si A ni…entah sembahyang ke tak. Depa2 tu kan baik dengan dia. Konon nak berdakwah sangat.”

If you are TRULY sincere and concerned, why don’t YOU go and give advice to si A about the 5 daily prayers? Stop finding faults at other people’s  method of dakwah. They KNOW who they want to approach. Besides, maybe they already did or maybe they were waiting for the right time. How about yourself? What have you, yourself, done for dakwah? Nothing, kan? So what makes you think you have the rights to find faults in others?

Sure, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and constructive criticism should be welcomed. But I am sure we can all agree that the examples above are NOT constructive at all!! It was done more for the sake of  ‘melepaskan geram’ or ‘melepaskan gian nak cari salah orang’ or ‘nak menunjuk pandai’. Give it up!! It’s such a very unattractive behaviour.

And some people (both men and women) do love to give strict rulings about matters that are ‘harus’.

“Daripada kau baca buku cerita banyak2 tu, baiklah kau baca buku Kisah Hidup Sahabat ke, atau Perjuangan Hassan Al-Banna ke…”

Terkena sebiji di batang hidung aku.

Well, then maybe I should say, “Daripada kau dok perabih duit beli kasut laa, baju laa, tukar iphone lahhh….baiklah kau sedekah. Kan banyak pahala tuuu.”

And to men, maybe I should say, “Daripada kau buang masa tengok bola pagi-pagi buta, apa kata kau buat qiamullail ke, berzikir di sepertiga malam.  Kan lebih elok,”

Or maybe, to make myself sound alim, I can use some arabic words too, “Pada pendapat ana, lebih afdhal untuk anta berqiamullail bersama-sama ana, daripada anta melakukan lagha di pagi buta untuk menonton bola,”

But have I ever done that?

I never presume to control others in matters that are ‘harus’. Things that are not in the category of haram or halal or makruh are harus!! Yes, kita jangan berlebih-lebihan dalam perkara harus kerana itu pun tak elok….but only Allah and that person alone can decide what is ‘berlebihan’ and what is ‘just nice’ for her.

Samada perkara2 harus yang kita buat berlebihan atau tidak, kita saja yang tahu. Bukan urusan orang lain untuk judge.

Macam yang pernah aku cakap, “Bagi orang lain, makan dua pinggan mungkin berlebihan untuk dia. Tapi untuk aku, makan 2 pinggan tu adalah basic. Kalau aku makan 5 pinggan, barulah berlebihan untuk aku. Aku yang tahu…perut aku yang berbunyi. Metabolism badan aku, is uniquely mine!! You would have NO idea.”

Even if she reads lots of novels, what makes you think she haven’t read religious materials too? And just because somebody bought an iphone or expensive clothes or accessories, what makes you think she also has not given charity with the rest of her money? And, just because you saw him watching football one night, what makes you think he didn’t do qiamullail for the rest of the other 6 nights of the week?

Tu pasal kita jangan pass judgment untuk benda2 yang harus, sebab kita tidak tahu kadar harus dia, dan apa yang dia buat selain daripadanya. Duit dia, apa yang dia nak beli suka hati dia lah. Masa dia, apa saja benda yang dia nak baca dengan masa yang dia ada, suka hati dia. Kau sendiri, jangan dok buang masa tolong fikirkan (dengan negatif) pasal urusan orang lain.

Yes, kau boleh bagi nasihat/tazkirah secara umum tentang fiqh keutamaan, dan kepentingan masa atau fadhilat sedekah etc etc etc. Tapi tak payahlah nak komen secara tidak konstruktif tentang perkara2 ‘harus’ yang dia lakukan. Sedangkan perkara2 haram, kau tak halang pulak! Siap tungguuuu berjam-jam lagi supaya perkara haram tu terjadi, lepas tu nak serkup orang dan mengumpat di belakang. That is NOT Islamic! Haiyaaa!!!

Satu lagi….it’s so easy for us to say, she is spending her money unwisely on novels and lagha books. But maybe, that’s because it’s HER hobby. However, she makes use of her money wisely in other matters.

Maybe she could say to you, “You are spending your money, changing your handset for every new technology that appears in the market. Or updating your camera equipments. Or buying the trendy clothes every month.”

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Aku tak suka rasa dikawal dan dikongkong. I love my commitment-free life and and my sense of freedom within the boundaries of the religion.

If people are to forbid me from doing something, the only reason that I would accept with full submission is, “Kerana Allah dan RasulNya larang.”

And another reason that I would accept would be, if the person that forbids happen to be my parents or my elders who do have the rightful authority over me. But even then, I would ask, “Kenapa tak boleh?”

If they can give me good, practical reasons that I haven’t considered, then again I would accept it.

But if you were doing it just to find faults in me, and NOT because you genuinely care about my well-being, don’t bother! I can generally tell WHEN people are really sincere for my welfare. Just like we can instinctively tell, when people are being negative and backbiting, and when people just need a listening ear without any malicious intention.

Kadang-kadang tak semestinya dia bercerita kerana nak mengumpat. Sometimes, dia ada masalah dengan seseorang, dan dia perlukan orang untuk mendengar…I have no problems with that. Tapi bila orang mula bercerita pasal dosa2 orang lain (yang dia tidak ada kaitan langsung dalam hal itu; spt contoh ternampak orang ‘pegang tangan’) maka aku mula rasa muak.

Jangan libatkan aku dalam umpatan mu.

Aku tidak maksum. Kau juga tidak begitu. Jika kau benar-benar ikhlas, kau akan berdepan dengan empunya badan lantas bertindak. Bila dihadapannya kau berdiam, jangan di belakangnya, kau melalak.

PS: This post is a reminder for me first before it is for others. Faultfinders and backbiters are really mentally draining to deal with. Let us pray to Allah to protect us from developing this habit EVER!

And the only real examples in the post are the ones about books (that’s MY perkara harus yang mungkin juga berlebihan) and the other real one is about my friend’s facebook status. The ones about clothes, iphone, camera and football…itu hanyalah contoh2 yang aku fikirkan, sebab itu semua perkara-perkara harus yang common dan diminati ramai. Bukan untuk menyindir sesiapa yang ada iphone or dslr ke apa ke. Just to give you guys a rough idea that semua orang ada hobi masing2 yang orang lain nampak berlebihan, padahal kita rasa biasa saja. So, janganlah nak jadikan benda itu sebagai bahan umpatan. Nak mengumpat pun, bernaslah sikit! Haiyaaaa!!